Going through a heartbreak for the first time is an overwhelming emotional experience that nothing can prepare you for. It can leave you feeling lost, depressed and lonely without a sign of it ever going away.

However it’s possible to navigate through this in a healthy and constructive way. Healing takes time and it’s different for everyone.

In this article we’ll explore some healthy strategies that can be used to move on from a heartbreak and regain emotional well being.

1. Allow Yourself to Grieve

We think that something you should definitely not do is faking and acting like everything’s fine. It’s okay to feel sad, hurt, or angry. This is all a part of the healing process. But you have to accept that it’s over.

There is no need to hold on to something that’s already gone. Time to move on. Take the time you need to heal. Don’t rush into another relationship just to fill the void. Use this time to find yourself, rediscover your joy, and become stronger/better. Only then you will be ready for something better, and trust me, better is coming!

2. Cut off Contact

It’s not easy but you have to cut off contact with them. Texting, calling, or stalking their social media page is only holding you back. Every time you do, you’re only reopening that wound instead of letting it heal. It’s hard to move forward if you keep looking back. Clear your mind and get your spark back.

Trust us, letting go is the only way you’re going to grow.

3. Avoid Rehashing the Past

Probably the most important thing. Stop. Rehashing. The Past. PLEASE. We know that you want to figure out what went wrong, when it wrong and how it went wrong, but that’s just you going round and round. You’re not Sherlock Holmes and you won’t get an answer for everything. It’s over, and there’s nothing to gain by overanalysing it.

Try to focus on what’s ahead, because (news flash) that’s where your future is. Learn, grow, and move forward.

4. Practice Forgiveness

You have to understand that forgiveness isn’t for them, it’s for you. Holding onto any type of anger and resentment is like carrying around emotional baggage everywhere, and it’s weighing you down. You should let that go.

Forgiving them and yourself is how you can set yourself free from the pain of the past. Give yourself peace.

5. Reconnect with Your Passions

When you’re in a relationship it’s easy to lose track of what makes YOU happy. Now it’s time perfect time to rediscover those (potentially) lost passions. It being hobbies, interests, the things you love doing that you might’ve neglected.

Don’t wait on someone else to make you happy. Find it within yourself by focusing on what lights you up. Reconnect with what makes you feel alive. Get back to being the best version of yourself.

6. Seek Support (Friends and Family)

You don’t have to deal with this by yourself. Lean on your friends and family. They love you and certainly want to help you through this. Don’t let pride keep you from reaching out.

Let them comfort you and list to their advice. They might be able to offer you some good perspectives and remind you of things you might not see while you’re hurting. Your support system is there for a reason, so don’t shut them out. Let them help you and lift you up.

7. Travel or Change Your Environment

Sometimes you just need a change of scenery to break free from the past. Get out of your regular environment. A change of location will surely help clear your mind. You’ll get the space to breathe and gain a fresh perspective.

Being in a new place can help you reset, without the constant reminders of what’s behind you. Don’t be afraid to change things up for the better

Conclusion: Trust the Process

We know it’s tough right now, but time, self care, and growth will eventually lead you to healing and certainly get you over that heartbreak. It won’t happen overnight, but if you stay committed to this journey, you’ll get there.

Take care of yourself, keep growing. This pain isn’t forever. A new chapter full of new opportunities, new people, and new experiences awaits you.

You got this!

"It’s Never Us" (Dealing With Heartbreak) is a book which depicts a personal journey, from falling in love for the first time to experiencing the different stages of heartbreak. A must read!